Oh god. Today has been a bit horrible and it's only 11am. We exchanged an email relating to expenses
for the business last night which resulted in him responding at midnight saying
he was sorry, he would do what he could to make it easier for me. He signed it off ‘I love you’ and then put
the pet name my children used to call him.
I felt sick. I can only presume
he was drunk as to be fair, he has had some element of control more recently
and held back on the emotional manipulation.
Suffice to say, I didn’t get the most amount of sleep last night.
Then to add insult to injury, I stayed out of the office
this morning as I knew he had an internal meeting with someone on my team. I went to see my lovely therapy lady
instead! And thank goodness I did. As I arrived at work, I saw him. I walked right past him sat outside a coffee
shop we used to go to a lot. It was
awful. We very briefly made eye contact
and I kept walking. It took all the strength
I had not to look again. I had no inclination
to stop but part of me wanted to look him in the eye and see what I might
see. I want to know if he is laughing,
hurting, smug, calm, angry and and and…. Who knows?
Fortunately I had seen my lovely lady this morning and we
did lots of work on what it is about me that wants to try and help people, keep
the peace and never feel like I am stupid or wrong. The part of me that is a pacifier is
ultimately causing me to be walked over time and time again. We worked on me feeling whole and
complete. As I walked away from him I
felt strength and belief in me. Real
belief. I am creating my world for me and
as much as he may tell me I should be ‘nice’ I know, I am.
On the way back from my meeting I saw him again from
afar. Sat in the same place, smoking a
cigarette. I detest his smoking. It is awful.
He promised in his mission to get me back he would stop. Just another example of a bullshit
promise. More words of something he
would do and never managed it. In that
moment, I felt relief. It was
confirmation once again that his promises are always empty and I am grateful I
have nothing to do with it anymore.
Today I am smiling more than I was yesterday :)